It was almost 5 years ago that I found the book “The Power of Now”, in what was one of the lowest points in my life.
This was my first introduction to the concept of presence. This idea that “you are not what goes on in your mind”, but rather, “all there is, is this very moment”.
Leading expert on happiness Mo Gawdat calls his mind “Becky”, and this is simply to disassociate himself from it.
Ever wondered where the term “I can’t live with myself” comes from? There are two people in that phrase...
When those thoughts of events that took place two years ago are circling in your mind, that is not you.
When you play over situations in your mind that are yet to occur, and likely never will, that is not you.
That’s Becky, or whatever you want to call yours.
The best piece of practical advice I can give you here is to see yourself as an observer. An observer that’s in the background keeping a watchful eye on your thoughts.
Every time to catch your mind rolling through thoughts bring yourself to that back seat and just listen to them.
Don’t comment on them, because that would be the same thoughts creeping in the back door.
Soon, it becomes powerless, and as you “flex the muscle” by catching it - you can further distance yourself from it.